Alcohol plays a vastly different role across cultures, and its use, acceptance, and meaning can shift dramatically depending on where you are in the world. For many, alcohol is more than just a drink—it’s woven into social customs, traditions, and even personal identities. But what happens when someone begins to question their relationship with alcohol, especially when cultural influences play a strong role?
In my work with clients, particularly those from European or other cultures where alcohol is deeply embedded in daily life, I’ve noticed a recurring theme: Navigating alcohol use in a new environment, such as Canada, can feel confusing, uncomfortable, or even isolating. Many clients describe a shift in how they relate to alcohol, a newfound curiosity about their habits, and, sometimes, a struggle with self-judgment or external judgment from others.
Alcohol in Different Contexts
People engage with alcohol for a variety of reasons, including:
Social & Recreational – In social situations like bars, parties, and gatherings, alcohol is often used to celebrate, unwind, or enhance confidence. It can serve as a social lubricant, helping people relax and connect with others.
Cultural & Religious Traditions – In some cultures, alcohol plays a sacred or ritualistic role, used in religious ceremonies, traditional gatherings, or as a way to honor customs passed down through generations.
Hobbies & Careers – Some people engage with alcohol as a passion, whether through wine collecting, mixology, or working in industries where alcohol education and appreciation are valued, such as hospitality or fine dining.
While alcohol can be a source of joy, celebration, and connection, it can also create challenges for some individuals.
When Alcohol Becomes Complicated
For many people, alcohol is a part of life without issue. However, for others, drinking can become a way to cope with stress, fit in socially, or deal with uncomfortable emotions. Some of the concerns that come up in therapy include:
Coping Mechanism – When alcohol is used primarily to deal with stress, anxiety, or difficult emotions, it can turn into a cycle of dependency rather than a choice.
Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) – Problematic drinking patterns can develop into AUD, where drinking becomes compulsive, difficult to control, and leads to withdrawal symptoms or distress.
Health Risks – Heavy drinking can have serious health consequences, including liver damage, heart disease, and increased cancer risk.
Social & Relationship Problems – Alcohol misuse can strain relationships, impact job stability, and create financial difficulties.
Navigating Alcohol in a New Culture
For many of my clients who have immigrated to Canada, one of the unexpected challenges has been the difference in drinking culture. They’ve observed that:
- Canadians tend to drink in a different way—perhaps less frequently, or with different expectations around consumption.
- What felt normal in their home country may now feel out of place, leading to self-judgment or judgment from others.
- Some find that their Canadian partners or peers don’t drink as often or as heavily, which can create discomfort or even conflict in relationships.
This often leads to a deeper exploration of their personal relationship with alcohol, with clients asking themselves: What do I want my relationship with alcohol to look like?
A unique challenge arises when they consider returning home. If they’ve changed their drinking habits in Canada, they might wonder:
Can I maintain my new lifestyle back home? Do I even want to?
Reflecting on Your Relationship with Alcohol
In therapy, I often encourage clients to reflect on key questions:
What do I get from the culture of drinking? – Does alcohol create connection, relaxation, a sense of belonging?
What does alcohol cultivate in my life? – What are the positives?
What are the negatives? – Are there downsides to my drinking habits that I haven’t acknowledged?
Whose voice am I hearing when I think about alcohol? – Am I influenced by my own desires, or am I reacting to expectations from family, culture, or society?
If I were to live authentically, how would alcohol fit into my life? – What choices align with my values, needs, and overall well-being?
Final Thoughts
Our relationship with alcohol is deeply personal, shaped by culture, family, and individual experiences. Whether you’re questioning your drinking habits, navigating cultural differences, or simply wanting to be more intentional with your choices, therapy can be a space to explore these thoughts without judgment.
If this resonates with you, I’d love to support you in finding clarity and confidence in your relationship with alcohol—whatever that may look like for you.